Recently I watched a PBS special, A Few Good Pies (http://video.pbs.org/video/2365544300/) a delicious documentary of travel across America in search of excellent pies. As they interviewed the pie makers, there were a variety of unique processes and scrumptious pies and also a large helping of joy. The pie makers loved what they were doing and loved knowing that their pies were making a difference in someone else’s life.
My favorite pie makers were a mother daughter team in Central Virginia. They own Woodruff’s Store. As one man said, “pies are what they sell, love is what they give away.” They enjoy making the pies and selling them but it’s their love of others that creates the true joy. They know that through their pies they are in service to a love for others.
I often work with individuals that are wondering what is next? What is it they can do that has them wanting to jump out of bed in the morning? What will bring them meaning and a sense of deep inner satisfaction?
They may have lost their job, recently retired or had an unexpected change that has left them feeling disconnected, confused and ungrounded. Or they may be feeling that there is more they are capable of doing in their life and want to discover what that is.
Watching the joy of the pie makers reminded me of how important it is to do something we love and yet even better how valuable it is to have it be in service to others. When we do that we not only use the gifts, skills and talents unique to us but we also contribute in positive ways to others lives. It’s not just what we do that matters but the inner motivation behind it. When it comes from love and a sense of service to others we all win.
When we include ‘serving others’ as part of the motivation for our lives it helps us open our hearts by shifting our attention from our individual self to another… or ‘me to we’. This increases a sense of abundance in our life. It also deepens interdependence. This value, interdependence, is greater than independence because it requires courage to be vulnerable and a willingness to trust when in need.
If you are in a time of transition, change or seeking, I’d like to offer 4 questions to reflect on that will help you listen more deeply to yourself and be in service to others. Take plenty of time to be with these inquiries. I recommend at least a week. Write each question out on a piece of paper and each day re-visit them. Write out all your answers and be patient as you reflect and listen to your own truth.
- What am I good at doing? What comes easily and naturally to me?
- What makes me come alive? This is what brings you joy and happiness when you do it.
- What opportunities is life offering me right now for doing what brings me alive?
- How does what I am doing serve others?
Good luck as you listen and discern.
If you are feeling confused, wondering what is next or know that you are ready to make a change, email or call me at 602-870-0060 I would love to speak with you and learn more about your situation. I offer support, practical tools and techniques that will help you navigate uncertain times and create the positive change you desire!