Here are some commonly asked questions about coaching.
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What is Personal Leadership coaching?
Personal leadership is leading your own life from the inside-out. It’s taking action based on your values, your strengths and most importantly from your inner guidance, your inner wisdom. It recognizes that our inner lives matter and self awareness, self acceptance and self compassion are keys to success, fulfillment and a sense of belonging.
What is the difference between coaching and counseling?
This is a common area of confusion because both counseling and coaching are powerful professions and bring new skills and transformation change. However they are not the same. Here are a few of the differences.
Counseling is focused on healing and solving painful problems from the past so that an individual can live with more peace. It’s based on feelings and emotions. It often has a pathology diagnosis that is identifiable as a dysfunction. Treatment plans are created by the therapist to resolve issues of the past. The goal is to help patients resolve old pain and improve emotional states. The therapist diagnoses then provides professional expertise and guidelines for a path to healing. The progress is often longer and takes time because issues are often subconscious and fundamental to a persons beliefs and habits.
Coaching is a method that is more about finding creative ways to be in the present and move forward towards a desired future. The emphasis in coaching is on self discovery and positive action. Coaches may look at the past, as it often informs the present and helps identify limiting belief systems. Coaches are also present with emotions and feelings. The focus is on taking action and on the client getting the results they desire. The nature of the issue is a generally functional client that wants a better situation. Questions asked are used to help clients experience insight and gain clarity. Clients learn new skills and tools to build a more satisfying and successful future. Coaches support process and growth. The coach is responsible for the process the client the results.
What is compassion and why is it important?
Compassion is caring about another person’s happiness as if it were your own.
It is not empathy or sympathy although it requires both. It does not mean giving other people what they want or sacrificing ourselves. It’s also not being consistently gentle or liking everyone. And it’s not about expecting some reward for being nice.
Compassion is radical acceptance of what is. It’s having the willingness to detach with love. It’s taking action when it’s appropriate and having the courage to withstand the criticism that often comes with compassionate action.
I believe having compassion does not make us weaker, it strengths us. Compassion lets us see others and the world in different and better ways and then gives us insights and opportunities for innovation and greater creativity. It doesn’t mean that we have to care for ourselves less if we’re compassionate. We must take care of ourselves so that we stay strong. We can do both, care for ourselves and be compassionate with ourselves and with others.
I believe there is a deep connection between us as people and if we take the effort to understand each other and practice compassion it will lead to greater creativity, innovation and solutions for us all.
What does it mean to be a certified coach?
A certified coach has completed a coaching program through an accredited coaching school that is recognized by ICF, International Coaching Federation. I am a Professional Certified Coach, PCC. I have completed all the training required and have coached over 750 hours of recorded client coaching. I am also a CPCC, a certified professional co-active coach with 20 years experience. I am certified through Coaches Training Institute and the ICF.
Why is a commitment so important?
Going through change and self discovery requires space and time. It takes time to get clear, decide what you want, learn new skills, overcome obstacles and truly move forward in a way that is empowering, helpful and long lasting. I know from my own experience and through watching clients grow and change that having a minimum of a 3 -6 month commitment shifts something right from the start. The commitment is to the change and the desire to make it happen. When a client decides to commit to coaching and signs up the shift begins right then. Commitment is powerful and I have found that making a 3-6 month commitment to the coaching takes energy away from indecision and empowers people to focus, do the work and move forward in positive ways.
How long do people typically work with you?
I have worked with clients for 6 weeks and then others for 5 years. It truly depends on what is wanted. The 6 weeks is often enough to share the tools, support and techniques for stress management. For coaching often once clients experience it around one issue, they often want to continue on to keep moving forward in a way that supports their well being. I have other clients that have worked with me for 6 months and then connect back for an occasional session. It’s truly up the individual and their desires.